There are some people who have felt better w/ heat than ice post op. Though intuitively, heat early on doesn’t make sense, it did help them because it increased circulation to the area which helped decrease pain. I say if warm fluids feel good, go for it. Ice from the outside & warmth from the inside. Sounds like a good balance to me!
Your incision will look pretty irritated for a couple of weeks before healing begins to turn it’s appearance around. That is normal. Don’t stress. It will basically disappear as it heals. You are still in the very early days of recovery.
Trashy novels, chick flicks, whatever it takes to get your mind off of how you’re feeling, work great! My “go to” was movies. I loved East & West (British…a tiny bit reminiscent of Pride & Prejudice). It was four hours of bliss for me. I think it’s on Netflix. If you watch it I recommend subtitles as some of the actors have very strong accents.
I wasn’t patient in recovery either…began exercising at the end of 2 weeks post op & walk jogged a 15K race in San Francisco at 6 weeks post op…BIG mistake. It was just too much too fast & set healing back a bit. Find a happy place mentally that allows you to be ok with taking it easy for awhile yet. You will recover faster & be back to what you love sooner.